When we are first dating someone, there is always a series of questions that we ask as we are getting to know them, such as "What do you do for a living?", "What are you excited about?", and "What are you currently watching and/or reading?" To me, personally, I always want to know what sign someone is. (I want to know what the hell I am getting myself into.) Yes, astrology is not super scientific when it comes to dating, but I truly do believe that it plays a genuine part in who we are and what we attract. So, I thought that it would be fun to start a series of posts on the pros and cons of dating various astrological signs, and my personal experience with them. (Stay tuned for the one all about Pisces men and why you should never date them, and by "you", I mean "me". That is a story for another day.) For now, let's talk Capricorn men, the pros, the cons, and the one particular Capricorn man who got away.
Let's start with the basics. Capricorns have birthdays that fall between December 22nd-January 19th, so we just missed Capricorn season by a few days, which is perfect because we will be discussing the one who got away a bit later. They are an earth sign, and they have Saturn as their ruling planet, so they tend to be grounded and stable. Capricorns, in general, tend to be ambitious, organized, focused, and practical. They are the workaholics of the zodiac. They are actually the 10th sign of the zodiac, and they tend to do the work of the first 9 signs before them, and strive to also complete the work of the last 2 signs after them as well. They are the ones who get shit done. They also tend to be the entrepreneurs of the zodiac. They sound like the perfect 1/2 of a power couple, right? We shall see. Let's explore a little deeper by examining the pros and cons of this intriguing sign.
The pros and cons of dating a Capricorn man:
1) Meeting the Capricorn Man:
Pro: If you work in Corporate America, there are plenty of Capricorn men in the work dating pool. They are the ones who usually show up early and stay late, so if you do the same, you just might cross their path. Also, they will be super impressed that you are working extended hours as well.
Con: If you work from home, you might have a more difficult time meeting these types because you are not in close proximity to them, and hitting on someone in the middle of a Zoom meeting is probably not HR friendly. As a workaround, you might want to try showing up at a networking event for professionals. Your Capricorn man will probably be there exchanging contact info, setting up appointments, and closing deals. Be sure to get him to pencil in a date with you.
2) Going on Dates with a Capricorn Man:
Pro: Capricorn men tend to be pretty efficient in everything that they do, so they will have a very streamlined approach for dating as well. You should know within the first date or two if a Capricorn man is into you or not. Then tend to be pretty calculated. He will have asked you a series of screening questions to make sure that you are not wasting his time, so there should never be a doubt in your mind where you stand with him. (He can probably show you all of the flow charts involved as well.)
Con: Capricorn men tend to date with their "head" and less with their "heart". They are very black and white, and leave very little for any kind of grey area in a relationship. They either like you or they don't. They either want to date you or they don't. They are not the "maybe" types of the zodiac. So, please prepare yourself for "one and done" dates when it comes to Capricorn men.
3) Sex and the Capricorn Man:
Pro: Capricorns are a cardinal sign, meaning that they tend to like to be in charge, including in the bedroom. If you like to keep it sassy and sexy, these men will show up with a firm delivery and an "overachiever" ambition. They are there to get the job done. They are also not afraid of a little kink, BDSM, etc. You will not be bored with them sexually.....ever.
Con: Capricorns are ambitious, so while they are great at everything they set their mind to do (including you), it is difficult to get them from the boardroom to the bedroom because they are ALWAYS working. You might just have to get a bit creative and show up at their office for a little spontaneous hookup in between their meetings. (They will schedule an end time to your sexy session though because....Capricorns are always working.)
4) Communication and the Capricorn Man:
Pro: They are efficient communicators. They are honest and straight forward. They will tell you what they think. They will never leave you guessing.
Con: Because they are succinct communicators, they do not have time for any of the fluff, including feelings, emotions, and reasoning. Dealing with emotions is a lengthy and distracting process, and they really do not have time for it. If you are emo af in any kind of way, or you are an Air sign (like my Gemini self), you probably are not going to fare well with a Capricorn man. They don't have time to process emotions or talk things out.
5) Relationships and the Capricorn Man:
Pro: Because Capricorn men are efficient, they also tend to be loyal. If they have everything that they need and want, why would they look for more? They simply do not have the time to cheat. They have shit to do, goals to reach, and deadlines to hit. If your Capricorn man is cheating on you, then you might want to check his moon sign because that is not typical Capricorn sun sign behavior.
Con: Due to their streamlined approach to dating, once they have you (the person who checks all of the boxes), they become hyper focused on their other life and work goals that they want to achieve, so your relationship might start to go stale because you are a goal that they have already attained. To sum it up Capricorn style, if it's not broke, don't fix it. Once they are "in the relationship", then they stop putting in the extra effort. Also, when they are done with you, they are done with you. There is no efficiency in lingering feelings in a catch and release relationship, so they won't turn back.
What do you think? Are you ready to be the other half of the Capricorn power couple? Few are up to the challenge. As a Gemini, I have had my eye on a Capricorn or two over the years, but I tend to get bored with them eventually as I need constant growth and open communication. I am not a "lukewarm" kind of gal. Give me all of the heat. (I am looking at you Aries.)
So, I promised earlier to tell you about the Capricorn man who got away. Here is his story. I met "Cap man" when I was in my later teens. He lived in Chicago at the time, and I was in Wisconsin. I met him over summer break when I was back home in Chicago visiting friends and family. "Cap man" was our waiter one night when my BFF and I went out to dinner. I thought he was pretty hot, so I left him my number on the check. He called, and we started hanging out. He was "on a break" with his longtime girlfriend at the time. We hung out much of that summer.
I was enamored by his ability to say exactly what was on his mind. I also appreciated the fact that he always did what he said he was going to do. He called when he said he was going to call. He grabbed me and passionately kissed me when he said he was going to. He was very sensual and sexy in ALL of the ways. I was at first very turned on by his ability to be predictable, until I realized that he was not trying to be predictable, he just was. (Gemini girl boner retracted.) We had an amazing summer. It was light. It was easy. It was fun. I went back to Wisconsin at the end of the summer. He said that he would write. He wrote. It faded out pretty quickly after that as I grew bored of the exchange. (He was a total catch, so I probably should have tried harder. Predictability was a lost trait on a younger version of me, but it sure does age like a fine wine.)
Fast forward: he ended up back with his ex who he was "on a break" with. They are still married today. Want to hear a super fun fact? I thought that I would never see him again. About 15 years later, I was sitting on a chair in my friend's living room (the same BFF who I was having dinner with when I met "Cap man".) She mentioned that the dad of her son's friend was coming to pick him up. Well, the dad showed up to pick up his son, and you guessed correctly, it was "Cap man". I quickly pulled my baseball cap down and turned away. After he left, I told my friend who he was, and she said, "I thought he looked familiar". It turns out that he lives in the house right behind them. Their sons are still friends today. I have seen him a few more times over the years. I always duck out of the way as to not have him notice me.
To this day, I have no idea if he has put two and two together to figure out who I am. I think he knows, but being a Capricorn, I am sure that he has no time for messy and complicated reunions, so it is better to stay quiet and smile inside. (BTW: being a disciplined Capricorn with attention to detail, he is still smoking hot with a killer bod.)
So, there you go. You now have the good, the bad, and the personal story of dating a Capricorn man. What you choose to do with this information is totally and completely up to you.
From my heart to yours,
Lisa Maria
(Gemini sun/Pisces moon/Libra rising)
(P.S. Stay tuned for Aquarius season and the men who embody it.)